No, this is NOT your job. You are to verify that the end part is manufactured to the specifications on the engineering drawing - nothing less, nothing more.
The 3D step file should match the engineering drawing. There's not fault here the task you and your brother have is to ensure that your customer gets the the part built to specification. If there is a difference between the CAD model and engineering drawing you should default to the engineering drawing or whatever you quoted too. If your quote specified that you were to build to the CAD file and inspect/specify to the engineering drawing then you should require a matching CAD step file. Ultimately, you should flag the responsible engineer or designer to let them know there id a difference between the engineering drawing and the CAD file. Also get in writing what the expectations are going forward.
Ignore the engineering drawing specifications? Don't, chances are that your customer is not verifying the incoming parts from your organization, reworking or accepting as-is. Either way, you guys are NOT doing the job you agreed too and it will bite you eventually. If you can't do it right - don't do it, deliver what you promised.
When I encounter customer who tell me manufacturing does not understand GD&T - I tell them they have the wrong manufacturing organization or people - move on.
No, most designers and engineers have no experience in machining. Moreover, most do not understand the manufacturing process capability nor do they consider it during the design process. I'll go a step further and say most do not even understand the mechanical tolerances required for their end-items to function.
I just happen to be a DFM/DFA as well as GD&T consultant and trainer BTW.
Step up your game, quote what you can build avoid what you cannot. Do what you say you're going to do, quality, quality, and more quality. Deliver on time, at the right price. You're in a competition with the whole world don't fall to last place.